My Contemplation

Ahh, one of the most confusing  and common questions one can ever have. Of course, answering this common question is not so very common; in fact it’s very difficult. I hope you have read my last post on “We are just friends,” because that will give you an idea how important it is to answer this question. If you have read my last post and have come here to find the answer of this question, let’s try to find out  first if the other person is in love with you and next we will find out if you are in love.

It is always easy for a girl to judge a guy whether he is in love with her, but it is very difficult for any guy on the earth to find the same about a girl. In spite of this, the guys have to always take chances and propose a girl; because as per the trend girl never proposes. No worries, lets see into how to find “if HE is in love with you?”

A man in love is not someone you need to spend a lot of time guessing; men are not as complicated as women.

A man in love will always do things that will clearly reveal that he cares for you. Caring for you can be anything wearing the clothes that you like, getting anything that you like from any corner of the world (of course if it is in his reach), spending more time with your family, calling u to ask whether you reached home safely even though you are not late at home, taking care of your need even before you can give a thought on it, etc. So observe him, if this is the case you are lucky girl, he is in love with you.

A man in love will always be engaged with you. If he is busy buzzing on mobile or reading messages or looking out here and there in your presence then there is a trouble. When he will be sitting with you, you will be the entire world for him. He will smile when you will smile.

Feel his touch; it will be tender and gentle. He will touch your face, your hair, your arm and hold your hand softly until you will feel the warmth. If he holds your hand in public you can be assure about his love for you; very few guys have guts to hold a hand of girlfriend in public.

Last but not the least, listen to your heart. If he does love you, you may have already stopped reading this by now. You don't need anyone to tell you what you know yourself.

And please, it is not always necessary that always a guy should propose a girl, even you can lead sometimes; this will give you what you may loose if not done.

Now it’s time for guys to find out “if She is in love with you?”

Girls are usually coy, modest and very sweet, so it is really challenging to find out if she loves you or not. If you are trying out to figure out from their gestures, that will be tricky one, so don’t try it.

She will never confess first, so she may give you a hint by saying you few words like “I like you, you are so sweet”, “You take care of me even more than my parents”, “You are such a nice guy, I like you a lot”, “You are the best person I had in my life”, “You are really trustworthy” etc. this is the first hint. But still at this point you need to put some more efforts to confirm it. So observe her behavior for the next points.

Now this is the point where you can get a second confirmation from her. You meet any of her friends and if she is jealous, you definitely have a chance. Try to praise some other girls (but praise genuinely, don’t praise where you know that your girl dominates compared to others in that point) and see the reaction, if she is jealous or angry; you have a chance. But if she reacts as if you are trying to fool her,  you are in trouble. However silly could be the point, if the girl is in love with you she will never tolerate you praising others.

The third confirmation, she will care for you in almost everything, the way you move, the way you drive your bike, the way you talk to your parents, the way you react to people. The most important when you are sick or stuck up in some (physical) problem, if she provides you an extra care and take care of your minor details,  you don’t need to wait for anything, she loves you a lot.

Forth confirmation, if she introduces you to her family and share everything about her family, you are done. A girl will never take a chance to introduce you to her family or reveal her family problems to you if she doesn’t trust you.

Last but not the least; again same applies to you. Listen to your heart. You don't need anyone to tell you what you know yourself.

Now that you have figured out whether she/he is in love with you or not, let’s now try to get the answer from yourself. The tough part starts now. I got a beautiful message that gives “12 ways to know that you love someone”. I know some of you must have read that message and I am sure just like me you also believe that these 12 ways actually works. So let’s go for it, they are as follows……

• Twelve: If you talk with him/her late at night and when you go to bed you still think of him/her.
• Eleven: If you walk really slowly when you are with him/her.
• Ten: If you don’t enjoy or feel good when he/she is far.
• Nine: If you smile when you hear his/her voice.
• Eight: When you look at him/her, if you don’t see any other people around him/her.
• Six: If he/she is everything you want to think and talk about.
• Five: If you realize that you smile every time you look at him/her.
• Four: If you would do anything to see him/her.
• Three: While you have been reading this, if there was a person in your mind all the time.
• Two: You have been so involved thinking of that person that you didn’t notice that number seven is missing.
• One: You will now to go back to check for number seven and now you are silently laughing to yourself and thinking about him/her.

If you got the answer, what are you waiting for, why don’t you just go and propose her/him. I hope you have  the best love life and you get married to the person whom you love, very few are fortunate to have it.