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I haven’t experienced even 50% of my life but till now have come across many people and many relationships. I am too naive or young to write something that is so very much important in anybody’s life – Relationship. Though learning from my experience so far, learning from people surrounding me and their experience, would like to share my own view on it.
If I am given the right to define the synonym of relation/relationship, (which of course no one is going to give, but still I would like to define it over here on my blog :P), I would define it as understanding. The better you understand, better would be any relationship. Its an individual’s perception how you take it & how you understand your relationship. There is a thin line difference between compromising and understanding, what you perceive it is what you make it. To change for someone for better can either be taken as compromise or as understanding. If you are happy with the change in yourself for someone or if you are changing yourself for someone with your wish, that according to me is understanding. If you are not happy with the change in yourself for someone, that is compromise. Again sometime you unwillingly have to change for someone but if it ends up for your betterment, that is nothing but understanding, though no one agrees to it.
The first time when we start inhaling we are already in relation with few people, we are related to our parents, grandparents, our siblings through blood relations. We don’t choose them, we get them and they are of course one of the best gift one could ever have. Of course, not everyone is lucky, I am. They take us through the most important journey of our life holding our hand, teaching the values, religion & moral; guiding us on the right path, scolding us, loving us and sometimes even beating us. We hurt them, we love them, we shout on them, we follow them, we respect them and we sometimes even go against them. Everything ends up to understanding, sometime they understand us, and sometime we understand them. I am lucky to have the most understanding parents and lovely elder sister who have supported me in everything. They understand me very well and sometimes even I do. 
Friendship, ideally it’s difficult to describe in words. We choose them and we nurture this relationship. We are open to them; with them we are the one we like to be. We fight with them and we also fight for them. We spend most of our time of the day with them, they know in and out about us. We share everything with them. We love them, we care for them, we cry for them and sometimes we also make other cry for them. We so very well understand our friends even though we have some problem, after few arguments, few shouts we stand beside each other for friendship. Understanding best works in friendship. Though you know you have to change for your friends you are eagerly ready to do so. Those days of school and college where our entire life is surrounded by friends is one of the best days we could ever have in our life. Throughout your life you miss these days and these relations. Love, spouse, partner, better half, lifeline or whatever you call this relation, it has more intense feeling than these words actually describe it. They are the one who travel with you throughout your whole life. They come into your life when you are ready to accept responsibilities. When you enter in this relationship you are ready to take your own as well as your better half’s responsibilities. This generation has the liberty to choose this relation for self, but with agreement of many people. Thank God, I am part of this generation. But even though we have the liberty to choose our life partner for us, why the divorce rate have increase in last 5 years as compared to previous years. Earlier, do people compromised or they understood?
This relation is one of the most complicated and the most important relation of our life. If we understand the spouse or better half just like we understand our parents or friends then it could be one of the best relationships in the world. We fight with our friends and parents but we are still with them forever, similarly can’t that happen along with our partner? We love our better half but very few understand each other. We fight, we cry, we shout, we scold but we love him/her the most and the life is incomplete him/her that is why we call it better half. When two people get married, they enter into each others world. A guy & his family should understand (again the word “understand” :) ) that girl will take time to adjust to the new life, something she had never seen for past 20 + years. Similarly, a girl should give a try to adjust with his family; of course it’s not possible without a guy’s help. Few things, habits or lifestyle we explore about our spouse slowly and gradually and it starts feeling that he/she has more negative points than those positive points we saw earlier. But we forget that no one is perfect, we all have some negative points and if we make the other understand (again, understand) their negative points (rather than pointing out) and help him/her to rectify on those points, that would help our relationship grow. I know it easy to write it but difficult to implement it. But very few people even think in this direction and unless you think, you cannot implement. Understanding & relationship goes hand in hand. Understanding should be from both the end, only parents understand every time or only child have to understand every time does not work for longer period. Every friend understands each other mutually and similarly it’s a responsibility of individual to understand his/her spouse mutually. The both way understanding leads to the happy relationship. We love all our relations, that is great but if we start understanding equally we could live happily forever. Sometimes a simple sorry in relation can prevent a life-long regrets, similarly to blame is human but to forgive is divine. All this is nothing but understanding and only that works to make your relation better.
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